I’m sitting in a restaurant, it’s friday night (some would say date night) and I’m dining alone over a glass of bubbles & l.o.v.i.n.g. life.
ive written before about the importance of time alone, but to be honest, this is much better, and I hope I can articulate why.
i can’t really remember how long I’ve been doing this, but I’d say date night alone is definitely a weekly event for me. at first, you feel self-conscious & cant get off your phone for fear of looking like a loser…then next minute, your ordering for four, over a bottle of wine & having the time of life on your lonesome.
how does that happen? & why would you wanna do that?! well my Huns, it’s liberating AF. it truly is.
we don’t realise how much we rely on the body next to us for validation & to feel comfortable in public. and those times with girlfriends & boyfriends & family etc are amazing and important too of course. but as important as it is to nurture & development your relationships with others, the most important relationship is always with yourself. you know this, don’t you babe?
and dining alone, phone down, is a beautiful way to spend time with yourself. it’s awkward & uncomfortable, but you get to make all the food choices, choose the restaurant, have three glasses of wine if you want to, order two desserts and get the best seat at the table (you know, the booth that faces errryone).
yes people look, but who the hell cares?! wasting anything more than a second on what other people think is a waste of your valuable time on earth. it’s not worth it, it’s not relevant, and at the end of your days you are not going to think about how great it was that you spent your whole life worrying about what others thought of you.
you’re going to think about how much you pushed yourself, beyond your comfort zones, to do the things that mattered to YOU. that you allowed yourself to be you, and how, in turn, you gave others permission to do the same. how you did what you wanted, regardless of whether you had anyone alongside of you approving of that. because that’s what this life is about – enjoying time out on your own & never allowing “date night” to ruin your plans of solitude over a fine meal & bottle of red.
let me leave you with this beautiful quote:
“Be alone. Eat alone, take yourself on dates, sleep alone. In the midst of this you will learn about yourself. You will grow, you will figure out what inspires you, you will curate your own dreams, your own beliefs, your own stunning clarity, and when you do meet the person who makes your cells dance, you will be sure of it, because you are sure of yourself.” bianca sparacino
p.s. I’ll do a post soon on my fave restaurant / cafe recommendations that are the perfect spots for dining solo in sydney…keep an eye out!